Testimonials

"Before I met Pamela, I used to allow myself to be emotionally tied to everyone and everything, out of fear of losing that person, situation etc... As a result, I lost myself. By the time I came to Pamela, I was a complete wreck. It was a long road but Pamela helped me to find myself again.

She has an easy down to earth manner and a sense of humor that will make you laugh on your darkest days. She never gave up on me, and I wasn't easy. I resisted every step of the way.

I had built up so many defenses and was so emotionally tied up inside I couldn't see clearly, and no one could see me... but Pamela could."

~ Jazmin Ruotolo, NY


"When I met Pamela, I was in one of a series of unhealthy, dysfunctional relationships, one of them being with my Self. I had unhealthy relationships with men because of an unhealthy relationship with my Self. Pamela helped me to take my life into my own hands - to understand that I am not a victim of what happens to me, but I actually choose what happens to me.

Having the knowledge of that power, being conscious of that power, my power, changed my life. She helped me to express my deeply suppressed anger and disappointments that I held onto throughout my life, from childhood to adulthood, some of which I was not even conscious of, but realized had blocked me from my true potential.

She helped me build my self-esteem... my relationship with my Self, thereby building the healthy relationships I now have with men, women, my friends, family, and the one man I call my husband, soul-mate, and biggest opportunity for further growth. I have never been happier. I am very grateful to have found a person that truly has the best interests of her clients in mind and heart.

Thank you Pamela!"

~ Lucie Lamster, Austria


"I had always believed relationships were about taking care of the other person and what their needs were, always above mine. Pamela showed me, through her own experiences, that every relationship is actually a reflection of you! So it's never about the other person, it's always about me! I couldn't understand this at first, because I never even considered my needs or desires when it came to relationships. How could it possibly be about me? And yeah, you always hear, 'You have to love yourself first, before you can truly love another...blah, blah, blah!'

"But Pamela has a wonderful way of explaining things and helping you to see things in a totally different way. And she somehow manages to make you laugh through your own tears. The fact that Pamela shared so much of herself and her own life with me made me think maybe this might work, so I started doing what she said, and putting myself first, and treating myself in the loving. supportive way that I had treated others, and things started to change. There is not one relationship in my life that has not been radically transformed all because I started treating myself better. I mean wow! Who knew this stuff really works! Thanks Pamela! You are truly amazing at what you do!

~ Carolyn Luna, NY


"I started seeing Pamela when I was in a relationship and things were not going well. I knew that some of the problems stemmed from issues I had not resolved from childhood. She was able to help me figure out why I was doing the things I did that were sabotaging my situation. At times, I was reluctant to believe that maybe I was creating the problems myself.

That was definitely a hard thing to realize. Of course, I wanted to blame someone else but I realized that I can only change myself. I continued my therapy sessions and after some time had passed, I began to feel better. I became more aware of my actions and tried to take steps to improve my situation. Pamela has helped me to better understand my actions. It hasn't always been easy but, with her help, I get a different perspective on the situation. This allows me to approach things differently. She has given me tools that I can use when I am in my head for too long. I still have challenging moments but at least I know I have Pamela to go to for help when I am in a crisis. She is amazing. Her wisdom and knowledge are one of a kind."

~ Susie Rabines, NY


"I accredit all my recent success to Pamela. She is the only person who could teach me how to know myself and love myself. Our discussions have enabled me to realize my inner truth. I recognize things about myself now that I would never have known before...things that I love! Fear and anxiety are gone. Now that I know who I am, and moreover accept who I am, I have been able to flourish as an independent woman. Inner peace has arrived. Pamela has made me see my inner goddess and I will never ignore or suppress her again. Friends and family comment about how great I look. My boss compliments me on how much money I am bringing in.

I now feel great about my external relationships as well - with my family and friends. Also, my boyfriend and I have never known such compatibility until I met Pamela. We connect on a much deeper level now. Pamela opened up my eyes to so many mistakes women and men make unknowingly in their relationships. Most can be easily avoided - if you know what to look for. Pamela can help you with that. My boyfriend and I are now both getting what we want out of our relationship with each other and we have never been happier.

Thank you Pamela."

~ Jennifer Saccone, NY


"I've known Pamela for years. She has seen me through many ups and downs. Pamela has always been there for me with her loving support - when I fell, when I rose up, and when I hit a plateau. The amazing part is that she never judged me; she just accepted me where I was at each point in time. I felt true unconditional love and real acceptance coming from her always. Wow! "

I've learned through my connections with men that the most important person I have to connect with is my Self. When I don't honor me, in fact, I allow others, and especially men, to dishonor me as well. It's as if they follow my lead and learn from me how to treat me. Who knew? "

I am now at a place in my life where my career is taking off, I am beginning to make lots of money and, best of all, I am loving my Self. I can see how this love within me is my True Power and how it automatically emanates to others. When it comes to men, I am actually in the process of creating that ideal soul partner connection and relationship within my Self first. Then, through the Law of Attraction, I'll be able to draw into my life exactly what I desire with clarity and bring that desire into full manifestation. "

Thanks to Pamela, I am feeling fulfilled without an actual man in my life, so that, when the time is right, I won't need him to complete me. I'll only desire him to complement and enhance my life. YAY TO EMOTIONAL INDEPENDENCE! YAY TO CONTINUAL EVOLVEMENT! YAY TO SELF-LOVE! YAY TO ME! YAY TO PAMELA!

THANK GODDESS SHE'S HERE!"

~ Alana Karagianakis, NY


"From the very start, Pamela has worked with me on helping me to better understand myself as an individual and to gradually learn to fit into my own skin and love the woman that I am. She has fully supported me in this process with the right amount of nurturing and insight. Pamela has guided me in recognizing how to take responsibility for my place in this world. "

As far as my relationships with men...hmmm...yes, we know how much I HATE to LOVE that subject... "

Thru the years, with Pamela's guidance, I've been able to see more clearly the role I've played in my relationships with men. How the men I chose to become involved with had more to do with reflections of how I actually saw myself. And the type of men I attracted as a result. Because Pamela has helped me to see that, I can make better choices that are in my best interests and that come from a loving place within myself."

~Marilyn Mineo, NY


"When I first met Pamela, to put it mildly, I hated men. I didn't realize this at the time. Then, I blamed them for being such losers. I remember Pamela used to cringe at the stories I would tell about how badly I treated them, but my heart was so closed, I didn't see it myself. I thought it was all on them. I didn't see that I literally beat them into being losers. Then Pamela completely blew my mind when she told me her take on relationships. She basically put all the responsibility on me. She told me how men live for us, and they can only go as far as we let them. She showed me that the anger I had at them was really with myself. I believed I was unlovable and any man who had the nerve to love me was going down. I was terrified of love itself! Pamela helped me release the anger and the heartbreak underneath all that rage. She's very brave. I had some very dark, scary moments and she stayed with me. "

Recently, I went through a very dark time. I felt so hopeless, I just wanted her to leave me in my misery. And then, one day, she said, 'Ok, if that's what you want, then go.' And she let me go, or she tried to, because in that instant, I gained the courage to fight. Losing to my own pain and feeling sorry for myself weren't options anymore. Pamela knows when to hold your hand and she knows when you need to find your own way. Now I not only have the courage to allow some one else to love me, I have the courage and the privilege of loving me myself. Pamela, you are the brightest of the bright, and I think you have more wisdom then even you know!

Thank you for being you!"

~ Daria Kitano, NY


"One way Pamela has really helped me is in the way I view myself today. Before, I didn't really think in terms of me being 'empowered' in my relationships with men. Without consciously being aware of it, I operated as if men had the power, so I in turn put men 'above' me without realizing it. One of the first things Pamela said to me when we started our sessions together was not to put men on a pedestal, that they are not above you. At first, when she said that, I thought, 'Well, of course not, I don't do that.' But as we got deeper in our sessions, I realized that, by not feeling like I had any real power in my relationships with men, I was in fact putting them above me and operating as if they had all the power. So if I'm not acting like I have power, and she's saying men don't really have the power, then who has it? And I came to realize, as a woman, if I'm acting disempowered, then my relationships are going to suffer because they're only going to thrive if I feel empowered. But I learned from Pamela it has to be real. I can't just say it and think it. I have to start truly empowering myself. "

How many times have we heard women utter the words 'women are stronger, men are weaker,' etc, but somehow while they're saying it, you get the sense that they've either become fed up with men (and you can't have a good relationship if you're fed up!), or else women say it, but they don't really live their lives like they believe it. "

My point is, Pamela helped me to see how if you as a woman start out feeling disempowered in your relationships, then you're pretty much going to guarantee yourself having a 'disempowered' relationship. If you believe you are deserving of a good and equal relationship, then you can have that too. But you can't just believe it with your mind. You have to feel the truth of it in your heart and soul. That's where real change comes from, and that's what Pamela helps you get at. Because in order to have healthy relationships, every part of you has to believe you can help create them, and if some part of you doesn't believe it, Pamela is gifted in helping you become aware of your own internal blocks to start unblocking and freeing yourself. "

Pamela has helped me to become more self-aware and get way more in touch with myself, all the different parts of me, particularly the parts that aren't 'pretty' or parts I was conditioned to believe are unacceptable because I considered them bad. But in the couple of years I spent working with her, she helped me to 'get' how it's not about being good, or bad, but being whole and working with and accepting all the different parts of myself, so that I could begin to have a healthier relationship with myself, and that automatically helped with all of my other relationships."

~ Liisa Lunden, NY

Sex, Lies and Sabotage...

From Relationship Sabotage to Relationship Transformation
by Dr. Pamela M. Zimmer, Ph.D.

The book that reveals how women can take responsibility for their own happiness and transform their relationships.

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